“Be mentally tough!”
“Let it all out!”
At some point in your life, whether it was from a coach, teacher, band and choir director, or even your own parents, you probably heard these phrases.
There was one moment, or even multiple moments, where you physically could no longer continue your workout, the last set of sprints in practice, the final moments in your audition or competition, the moments you spend with your loved ones, the tasks you had at work, and even your homework in school.
No matter how many times that coach, teacher, band and choir director, or parent told you to:
“Be mentally tough!”
You just couldn’t do it. I know; it’s okay. We’ve all been there. But what does “being mentally tough” really mean?
Towards the end of my junior year of college football at Walsh University, I had a similar experience with one of my coaches. Coach Fankhauser is one of the best people I know and will always serve as my favorite mentor, coach and most importantly, friend.
While I always considered him to be a great coach through my first few years at Walsh, there was one defining moment in my “exit interview” with him following the season, which completely changed my mentality and how I approach every aspect of my life.
As I slouched in Coach Fank’s chair in his office after a frustrating year as a team and a season where I noticed a decrease in my individual performance, he asked me to evaluate the season from my perspective.
Before I could answer, he asked if I gave everything that I had and finished the year without regret. He asked if I took any practices and plays off, if I attended every class that semester and had a positive attitude about every situation I faced.
Let’s cut to the chase. He knew that every answer would be “No”.
I’ll save the part where he ripped into my soul, constructively criticized how I performed and how that completely transformed my mindset, but I want to mention the most important thing he told me.
“You need to GO DEEP”
Let me expand on what that means and why he told me:
“There’s another person deep inside of you that wants it more than you do. It’s not enough to tell yourself and other people that you gave everything that you had and refused to relent. It’s that person inside of you that will prove through ACTION that you did. That person inside of you is a tougher, relentless and better version of yourself. Remember that when you think you’re tired, unmotivated, and feel like quitting. You need to GO DEEP”.
Here’s the lesson:
When you’re tired physically, mentally and emotionally. Know that you can always do more and give more. There’s a deeper and tougher version of yourself within your spirit and soul that wants that success, fulfillment, achievement and result more than you do. It’s on you to DIG DEEP and pull that person out of you. You will be grateful you did.
Find A Way and #GoDeep